Many people wonder what the “normal” behavior for child is before anyone else is to think that the child has a behavior problem or I should say is a “problem child”. But what many people don’t understand is that every child is unique, and the process of growing up and their behavior all depends on how well the parent or caregiver provides the love, attention, knowledge and guidance for them. All the rest that do fit outside that category have their significant reasons to why they may really have a behavior problem. What matters the most though, is how well the parent or caregiver provides help for the child. Abusiveness due to drugs and alcohol, physical, mental, and even emotional abuse are all factors that take part in how a child behaves when in the case of a child really shows poor behavior. No matter what shape or form any of these factors are used by any person in the family, all comes down to that specific behavior we know of “not being a good kid”. The most important role of the parent or caregiver is to first understand where the child’s behavior is coming from and learn exactly how to go for help and treat the child. Without that, it’s a sad thing to know the poor conditioning for that child may result in a lifetime’s way of unsuccessful living when really they are the innocent little people.
Where most children’s behavior is noticed is when the child is outside of the home and in the care of other people other than his or her parents; in other words daycare (school). The advantage of a children attending daycare when young, possibly starting at the age of one or two until beginning of elementary school, helps the parents have greater variety of how their child responds to other people and reacts to different things in the world. When being at daycare, the caregivers there are well trained to know the attention they are supposed to give each child and in return understand how that child is different from the others and each way the react to everything in at their level. The most common types of aggressive behavior that takes place in the classroom are hitting, biting, not sharing toys, name calling, hurting others, throwing toys, stealing toys or objects from other children and even sometimes swearing: and the list goes on. For each of these aggressive behaviors is certain steps and procedures to treating the child and helping them understand why they feel the way they do about the situation and what made them react the way they did. Beginning with each type of behavior the caregiver in the classroom should first off ask themselves five simple questions to get them started in treating the situation. 1. When does the child act upon that behavior? 2. What triggers the child to perform the behavior? 3. Who is/ are the victims at most times the child behaves in appropriately? 4. What happens directly after the behavior is acted out? 5. How often does the child have in appropriate behaviors? By doing so, controlling the behavior and any other that may follow is the easiest way to keeping a safe and healthy environment for everyone in the classroom.
How children see the world verses the view adults do and try to raise a child is completely not on the same level as we all know. Children have their own way of describing their lives to the adults. They, in most cases, seem to appreciate their childhood and everything that goes on as long as they have that adult figure to turn to when they don’t know what to do. They know at all times they are loved but feel that there is an conspiracy by the adult world to prevent them from doing what they want to do at all ages and aspects. As the adult, we know it’s just part of being a loving parent to make sure they grow up to be a good person and live a successful and happy life. Communicating with children is the biggest key to understanding them. In order to communicate with them to understand them, adults need to know how to talk to them in a positive manner. Praising them for the things they do right, using consistent wording and being patient and understanding all contributes how good the adult makes the child feel which results in a positive behavior. By not setting such high expectations for children often helps the children want to strive to do what it is that we want them to do instead of just making them do it. Their self esteem and containing it throughout their lives is the main key to growing up and having the potential for living a successful life. All the negative behavior a child gives out needs a positive cognitive filter to gain the self esteem in knowing that they can be a good kid and do things that will make his or her parents happy. All behaviors derive from thoughts and the thoughts they think derive from their feelings. It’s a cycle ongoing that not only children live, but any human being because of the interaction we have with each other.
The role of parent involvement in the classroom to keeping up to date information on the status of the child’s progress at school is one of the most important ways of knowing how to raise a child. In order for a person, at whatever age it may be to raise a child and do it so the child grows to live a normal and healthy life they need to have the knowledge, and skills in how to raise their child. If one does not, it’s known to know that they may be an unfit parent. The benefits to the children in having parents that are involved in the care of what it is that they get out of being at daycare is it gives them the opportunity to show their parents how smart they are being guided on their out without the parents assistance to grow up and learn. Children at all times thrive for the influence of a special caring person in their lives to know what life is all about. The more adults learn about in the eyes of a child and understanding them, the easier raising them will be and the better the people there will be in the world.